People need people. That belief is universally accepted and shared by others.
It has become the gold standard. Don’t get too lonely. Nonalcoholic members
of the psychiatric profession tend to equate loneliness with boredom. If there
is any one thing that must be included in the alcoholic’s life before he can once
again become a whole man it is worthwhile activity. This may be Twelfth Step
work, vocation, avocation, or anything else. Such activity must be present in
order to fulfill his or her existence and eliminate loneliness.
We must also consider the loneliness brought about because the newcomer
lives alone. But this is easily rectified. It takes only a phone call or a visit to
an AA-oriented social club. Or, for the AA Loner, or other members, the Big
Book or a letter to an AA pen pal may suffice. Under any conditions, Loneliness
is the mother of self-pity and the ultimate end is resentment and drinking. The
rule of Thumb? Do something. Loneliness is a curse. There are few who can
live in solitude, alone and detached from fellow man. Human beings do better
when they interact with one another.
Those who are isolated and devoid of human interaction may stagnate and suffer
from emotional insecurity and self-doubt; their existence a bleak and unfulfilled
life. A lack of close friends and a dearth of broader social contact generally bring
the emotional discomfort or distress known as loneliness. It begins with an awareness
of a deficiency of relationships. This cognitive awareness plays through our brain with
an emotional soundtrack. It makes us sad. We might feel emptiness. We may be filled
with a longing for contact. We feel isolated, distanced from others and deprived. These
feelings effect our emotional well-being
Happiness thrives in groups. Churchgoers are an illustration of a gathering that may
be happier because they belong to an extended family with social interaction,
community, and shared values. Individuals who have no family may reach out and
embrace an extended community of like-minded persons, developing a strong,
fraternal unit and infrastructure. Numerous studies have shown that the healthiest,
happiest people tend to be more involved in their communities.
While there is debate on whether one causes the other is unclear, there is some
sense that having wider social connections and relationships are an important part
of being happy. Lack of emotional connection to others can produce detriments in
the ability of the individual to connect with others. Lack of interactions, human
relationships and the sense of belonging may result in depression or loneliness while
an abundance of love, friendship and community involvement allows an individual
to thrive in recovery.