Anger is not always negative, it can be channeled into positive achievements.
If a particular social condition arouses negative emotions in you, this can
motivate you to take the steps necessary to do something about it. Rage, on
the other hand, is generally negative, and tends to have no positive aspects.
When rageful outburst become a dependency recurring again and again, it can
be destructive to relationships and to personal well-being.
Seeking help to control such emotional issues, whether for you or for someone
else, can be challenging. The perceived stigma in addressing anger issues, can
cause fear and hesitation. Some of this comes from guilt — the feeling that the
condition needing help is somehow the individual’s fault. It helps to understand
the source of these feelings.
Anger, and then rage, often stems from unmet needs or situations over which the
individual feels he or she has no control. Rageful emotional outbursts will often
give momentary satisfaction, but in the long run will not solve the original issues.
When rageful outbursts continue to happen, it can lead to even greater feelings of
guilt, which may in turn lead to something such as panic attacks, which represent
a danger in themselves.
Overcoming the fear associated with getting help to deal with one’s issues
is not easy, but it can be done. First, it must be understood that when the
condition is extreme, it may be hard to stop. Without professional assistance,
anger issues can become difficult to deal with. Feelings of guilt and shame
can increase anxiety and make it more problematic for people to seek help.
A certain amount of anxiety concerning the unknown is normal and to be
expected, and dealing with dependence issues involves a huge unknown. But,
if the affected person learns to like himself or herself, either independently
or with help from those in close relationships, the first major hurdle has been
crossed. Next, it helps to identify and take steps to satisfy unmet needs, often
an initiator of rageful outbursts.
Finally, while anxiety can cause rises in blood pressure, and is extremely
uncomfortable, there is no record of it actually causing significant physical
harm. The things we fear, disapproval or censure of others for instance, hurt
our feelings, but do not harm others. When we reach that realization, some of
the anxiety is relieved almost immediately.